On this day 12 years ago I became a mom. They say that as soon as you see your child, all the difficulties of labor just fade away and you are instantly in love with your new little one. While that may be true for some, my experience was not quite so romantic. I had high blood pressure for the last week of my pregnancy, and endured two sleepless nights before even going into the hospital. I had intermittent contractions all night and as soon as I got up for the day thinking I was in labor, they would go away. By the third evening, I asked my husband to take me in anyway, knowing full well that if I let it go any longer, I wouldn’t have the strength to get through the birth.
I was admitted to OB triage due to the fact that I had preeclampsia and was started on Pitocin. I labored for 19 hours but still hadn’t progressed enough and the baby began showing signs of distress so they took me into the OR to perform a C-section. Once they had cut me open they said, “Well, good thing we came back here. He wouldn’t have come out anyway. His head was transverse (sideways).”
Soon after he was born they took my son to clean him up and took me into recovery for some much needed rest. I didn’t even get to bond with him until a few hours later. Our stay was extended since he was jaundiced and was not nursing well. For the first four days of his life he was fed mostly through a dropper. Not only was I unable to birth my child naturally, now I was unable to feed him.
Thankfully, as soon as we got home, he started nursing like a champ (maybe he didn’t like the hospital either) and growing like a weed. Fast forward 12 years and he is as tall as I am and wearing men’s clothing already. And his pre-teen stubbornness? Well, some say that that is because he had to fight so hard to be born.
Today’s Gospel talks about Jesus separating the sheep from the goats and welcoming into his Kingdom those who have shown charity toward their neighbor through the corporal works of mercy. Isn’t that what the true labor of a parent is all about? – teaching your children to love God and neighbor, with the hope that they will be “blessed by [the] Father” and one day “inherit the kingdom prepared for [them]”. Our greatest hope is not that they become rich and famous but that they be counted among the righteous so as to inherit eternal life with God.
So whether your child is newly born, an adult or somewhere in between, don’t forget to remind them, whether by word or example, how important it is to show kindness toward others and love God with all their heart. And no matter how many sleepless nights they may (still) cause you, never cease to pray for their salvation.
Hace 12 años, en este día, me convertí en madre. Dicen que, en cuanto ves a tu hijo, todas las dificultades del parto desaparecen y te enamoras instantáneamente de tu nuevo bebé. Si bien eso puede ser cierto para algunas, mi experiencia no fue tan romántica. Tuve presión alta durante la última semana de mi embarazo y pasé dos noches sin dormir antes de ingresar al hospital. Tenía contracciones intermitentes toda la noche y, en cuanto me levantaba pensando que estaba empezando el parto, desaparecían. A la tercera noche, le pedí a mi esposo que me llevara de todos modos, sabiendo muy bien que si lo dejaba pasar más tiempo, no tendría la fuerza para sobrevivir el parto.
Me admitieron en el hospital debido a que tenía preeclampsia y comenzaron a administrarme medicina para empezar el parto. Estuve de parto durante 19 horas, pero aún no había progresado lo suficiente y el bebé comenzó a mostrar signos de sufrimiento, por lo que me llevaron a la sala de operaciones para realizarme una cesárea. Una vez que me abrieron, dijeron: “Bueno, menos mal que venimos acá. De todos modos no hubiera salido el bebe. Tenía la cabeza transversal (de costado)”.
Poco después de que nació, se llevaron a mi hijo para limpiarlo y me llevaron a recuperación para que descansara un poco, algo que necesitaba. Ni siquiera pude establecer un vínculo con él hasta unas horas después. Nuestra estadía se prolongó porque tenía ictericia y no mamaba bien. Durante los primeros cuatro días de su vida, se alimentó principalmente con un gotero. No solo no pude dar a luz a mi hijo de forma natural, ¡ahora no podía alimentarlo tampoco!
Afortunadamente, tan pronto como llegamos a casa, comenzó a mamar como un campeón (tal vez tampoco le gustaba el hospital) y a crecer rapidísimo. Doce años después, es tan alto como yo y ya usa ropa de hombre. ¿Y su terquedad preadolescente? Bueno, algunos dicen que se debe a que tuvo que luchar mucho para nacer.
El Evangelio de hoy habla de cómo Jesús separa las ovejas de las cabras y acoge en su Reino a quienes han demostrado caridad hacia el prójimo mediante las obras corporales de misericordia. ¿No es eso el verdadero labor de ser padre de familia? Enseñar a los hijos a amar a Dios y al prójimo, con la esperanza de que sean “bendecidos por [el] Padre” y un día “hereden el reino preparado para [ellos]”. Nuestra mayor esperanza no es que se hagan ricos y famosos, sino que sean contados entre los justos para heredar la vida eterna con Dios.
Así que, ya sea que tu hijo sea recién nacido, un adulto o algo entre medio, no olvides recordarle, ya sea con palabras o con el ejemplo, lo importante que es mostrar bondad hacia los demás y amar a Dios con todo el corazón. Y no importa cuántas noches de insomnio te cause (todavía), nunca dejes de orar por su salvación.
Tami Urcia is a midwestern gal from a large Catholic family. As a young adulthood she was a missionary in Mexico, where she studied theology and philosophy. After returning stateside bilingual, she gained a variety of work experience, traveled extensively and finished her Bachelor’s Degree at Brescia University. She loves organizing and simplifying things, watching her children play sports, deep conversations with close family and friends and finding unique ways to brighten others’ day with Christ’s love. She works full time at Diocesan in the Software Department and manages the Inspiration Daily reflections. She is also a guest blogger on CatholicMom.com and BlessedIsShe.net.
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